Dealing with disappointments:
No matter what stage of life we are in, we all deal with disappointments at one point or another. Whenever I’m going through a hard moment, my natural reaction is to shut down, and I allow that unfulfilled expectation to consume my thoughts and emotions. For a long time I didn’t realize this was the way I dealt with problems, and as a result, I would not be able to move on from them. As I have gotten older, I learned that it’s important to study myself and understand how I react to different situations, and I had to change the way I handled them. One day I was crying on my drive home from work, and I had been crying every day on my drive home that week, I couldn’t handle it anymore. I knew that I needed the Holy Spirit to guide me. I was so overwhelmed by my emotions that all I could say was “when I am weak, then I am strong” (2Corinthians 12:9). I started to catch myself going down this spiral, and I stopped and asked, God what do you have to say about my situation?
I so desperately needed an answer and I realized that I was mourning and expectation. I had set this expectation, and it didn’t happen the way I thought it would. It actually was the complete opposite, and I needed to let that expectation die. Many times we live disappointed because we can’t let go of a certain expectation. God is not always going to give us what we want, and we have to discipline ourselves to realize that. Whenever I don’t understand a situation I’m facing, many times the Holy Spirit leads me to this scripture.
“My thoughts are nothing like your thoughts,” says the Lord. “And my ways are far beyond anything you could imagine. For just as the heavens are higher than the earth, so my ways are higher than your ways and my thoughts higher than your thoughts.”
Isaiah 55:8-9 NLT.
The Scriptures are telling me that my thoughts don’t compare to His thoughts, and if he didn’t give me what I wanted, He has something better than anything I can imagine. The enemy wants us to be so concerned with what “didn’t happen” that we can’t concentrate on what God wants to do in us, through us, and for us.
Whenever you are living through a disappointment take a moment to look at the bigger picture and remind yourself of all the beautiful promises that God has for your life. If one door didn’t open, there’s a bigger door some steps ahead. If you keep trying to push that other door open, you’ll delay or never arrive at the door that God wanted to open for you all along.